tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post4755555846158813665..comments2024-03-29T11:13:56.064+04:00Comments on Life with Chickenruby: Do our adult kids still need their mum?chickenrubyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05731936852696584642noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-61661502274899404892019-03-29T09:51:47.612+04:002019-03-29T09:51:47.612+04:00I saw my dad slow down rapidly, because we lived a...I saw my dad slow down rapidly, because we lived abroad and weren't there for the day to day stuff, each visit i noticed a huge difference. Mum accepts she can't do some of the stuff she used to, whereas dad was in denial about everythingChickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568740617728527002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-43634698597657030022019-03-29T09:50:10.677+04:002019-03-29T09:50:10.677+04:00My kids know I'm there if they need me, which ...My kids know I'm there if they need me, which in some ways makes it easier for them to make their own decisionsChickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568740617728527002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-57718184074203108172019-03-29T09:49:20.089+04:002019-03-29T09:49:20.089+04:00Middle child has always said that us living abroad...Middle child has always said that us living abroad when he left home at 18 meant he had to stick at things and learn how to adult without us a back up and thinks he's been more successful knowing he didn't have us around just to fall back onChickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568740617728527002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-10728588364037672062019-03-29T09:47:56.601+04:002019-03-29T09:47:56.601+04:00I stopped needing my mum a long time ago, she find...I stopped needing my mum a long time ago, she finds it hard that i say that, but I hope my children never feel the need to have to put me first, i'd rather they wanted me to be part of their lives rather than needing meChickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568740617728527002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-39095995467757746412019-03-27T02:34:07.522+04:002019-03-27T02:34:07.522+04:00I'm at that point where the relationship is ch...I'm at that point where the relationship is changing, my parents are still independent and still gadding about as much as they can, but they know they're slowing down too. They're also much less feisty and sure of themselves in the modern day world, and I guess that must be scary for them. I mean at times it's scary for me! I think informing is a much healthier approach, and Stephanie 139ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15272197074159910894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-40820983203083784592019-03-25T23:52:40.325+04:002019-03-25T23:52:40.325+04:00I dont think as an adult you need a mother figure ...I dont think as an adult you need a mother figure in your life, but to have one there is still nice especially in times of trouble. Thank you for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back tomorrow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-48954874577638364422019-03-25T14:21:46.682+04:002019-03-25T14:21:46.682+04:00It's interesting Suzanne how the roles change ...It's interesting Suzanne how the roles change over time. My parents were abroad a lot when I was a teenager which in hindsight I think really helped me to become more independent as they weren't around for me in the way I am for my teens. My relationship with my parents is very close, particularly my mother and that is something which has repeated in my own relationship with my teens. Jo - Mother of Teenagershttp://www.motherofteenagers.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-20696609657946304102019-03-25T01:06:52.987+04:002019-03-25T01:06:52.987+04:00I think a child never stops needing their parents....I think a child never stops needing their parents. I'm 41 now and still need my mum and dad - yes, my needs have changed over time but I still need to know they are there when I am upset or when I want to off load. I hope it will be the same with my kids when they're older x #TriumphantTalesRosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02494173011308698653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-81818938959628682722019-03-24T20:03:28.555+04:002019-03-24T20:03:28.555+04:00it's not something i ever gave thought to in t...it's not something i ever gave thought to in the future, it just all happenedChickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568740617728527002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-88826350077589722692019-03-24T20:03:01.657+04:002019-03-24T20:03:01.657+04:00i wouldn't want my adult children to still be ...i wouldn't want my adult children to still be needing meChickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568740617728527002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-53995714607239574332019-03-24T20:02:33.308+04:002019-03-24T20:02:33.308+04:00we are in the opposite situation as we are the one...we are in the opposite situation as we are the ones who live abroad from both our parents and our childrenChickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568740617728527002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-68683767137365857472019-03-24T20:01:51.169+04:002019-03-24T20:01:51.169+04:00it is a worrying thought, my mum says she doesn...it is a worrying thought, my mum says she doesn't want it to be our responsibility when the time comesChickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568740617728527002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-14816087953992570752019-03-23T03:30:20.215+04:002019-03-23T03:30:20.215+04:00When my 5 year old kisses and cuddles me, I often ...When my 5 year old kisses and cuddles me, I often wonder how his relationship will be with me 10-15 years down the line. Obviously he won't cuddle and kiss me (imagine his embarrassment!!!) but I do hope that lovely bond is still alive. I guess as long as kids know we have their back and we will always be there for support and guidance, we've done a good job parenting. I tell my son even Nicole - Tales from Mamavillehttp://talesfrommamaville.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-56401279867250163192019-03-22T18:40:48.058+04:002019-03-22T18:40:48.058+04:00Interesting post and helpful too. My first son wil...Interesting post and helpful too. My first son will leave in the next year I think. It scares me and not sure if I am more scared for him or myself. Apparently my mum told my brother later in life that she wanted to be treated as a friend rather than a parent. Your children clearly know you are there for them - that means you are a successful parent surely #TriumphantTaleskateonthinicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08506288402799764435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-24570210744923331712019-03-22T16:34:49.914+04:002019-03-22T16:34:49.914+04:00A thought provoking post and it's definitely o...A thought provoking post and it's definitely odd seeing how the roles reverse! My parents live abroad and do not get to see them as much as I would like. Whilst I don't need my mum as such, it would be nice to see my parents more often and spend more quality time with them. Sim x #PoCoLoSimsLife.co.ukhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00263899888020185879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-80302927378045568092019-03-22T15:42:46.168+04:002019-03-22T15:42:46.168+04:00I could relate to your post. I have 3 adult sons. ...I could relate to your post. I have 3 adult sons. I hope they always want to visit with me and do fun things together. I certainly enjoy being a grandma too. When the time came that my mother needed care, she had had a stroke. I was working full time and she needed around-the-clock care. She had to go to an assisted living facility. Even though I visited her every day, took her out for meals and Meditations in Motionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08406003928113822953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-18877474550545070722019-03-22T14:03:43.539+04:002019-03-22T14:03:43.539+04:00thank you, i'm hoping things will be easy with...thank you, i'm hoping things will be easy with my mum when the time comes as she's already moved into a 2 bed new build flat, so at least i can concentrate on her and not gardening and repairsChickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568740617728527002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-84881082513087912512019-03-21T16:22:52.619+04:002019-03-21T16:22:52.619+04:00I really love this. My children are still far too ...I really love this. My children are still far too young for this dynamic, but I do get it in that I left home at 19. I have needed my mum on and off over the last nearly 20 years, but mostly due to health issues, but more for guidance and advice. The time will come when she will need my care, and I will be there for her, just as she is caring for her mom now in Zimbabwe. <br />Thanks for linking Mom Of Two Little Girlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01158120451973528445noreply@blogger.com