tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post705568166515548220..comments2024-03-29T07:32:54.286+04:00Comments on Life with Chickenruby: The gentle art of persuasion with teenagerschickenrubyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05731936852696584642noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-70913126609957053542017-04-11T08:25:18.080+04:002017-04-11T08:25:18.080+04:00it's also a lot easier to write these posts af...it's also a lot easier to write these posts after the kids have left homechickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05731936852696584642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-24405288295666636142017-03-21T13:48:43.578+04:002017-03-21T13:48:43.578+04:00This is such a great post. I agree completely with...This is such a great post. I agree completely with this but need to remember it more often, it would make life a lot easier :) <br />#TweensTeensBeyond Teentweentoddlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08642033015882770258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-74987149398965591432017-03-19T10:41:06.378+04:002017-03-19T10:41:06.378+04:00you're welcome it nice to have somewhere to sh...you're welcome it nice to have somewhere to share stories of older kids and life after they leave homechickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05731936852696584642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-21105211281438068632017-03-19T10:40:33.056+04:002017-03-19T10:40:33.056+04:00with 5 kids, we learnt early on not to give freedo...with 5 kids, we learnt early on not to give freedom of choice, I'm afraid I still have to remind my husband of this from time to timechickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05731936852696584642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-59916707183423700402017-03-19T10:39:54.748+04:002017-03-19T10:39:54.748+04:00there comes a time to stand your ground and say en...there comes a time to stand your ground and say enough is enough, we'd tried some of these techniques in the past and failed, i guess me just not being there had to force the change neededchickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05731936852696584642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-23782056379461829622017-03-19T10:38:44.526+04:002017-03-19T10:38:44.526+04:00we've carried this on into adulthood, when the...we've carried this on into adulthood, when they come home to visit, we remind them they are adults and although they are on holiday, we're not and if they want room and laundry service they can stay in a hotelchickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05731936852696584642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-22963550308974063792017-03-17T18:11:13.995+04:002017-03-17T18:11:13.995+04:00Your husband sounds very much like mine. I love th...Your husband sounds very much like mine. I love this post. I am guilty of racing around and trying to cover too many bases. I really like your advice on giving limited choices - I can see that would make my life a lot easier and I'm going to try that one out! Thanks so much for joining us at #TweensTeensBeyond, we really appreciate your support. Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15167630322103481821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-56103860487142298722017-03-16T23:32:50.141+04:002017-03-16T23:32:50.141+04:00We have fallen foul of this one. Usually involvin...We have fallen foul of this one. Usually involving going out. Too much say about where we go became a bit of a thing for us and you can't leave a 10 year old on her own! I've changed that to, this is what we are doing, I'm happy to get someone to look after you if you don't fancy it but we will still be going. You are right, its the way you say it. We do have to think on our Nicky Kentisbeerhttp://www.notjustthe3ofus.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-84076860605070835492017-03-16T21:05:29.602+04:002017-03-16T21:05:29.602+04:00One of the biggest bones of contention between my ...One of the biggest bones of contention between my husband and I (and it seems many others) is that I do too much and the teens are never going to learn if I keep on doing things for them, but as you say there is a way of teaching that doesn't have to necessarily go against my/our values and the only person who ultimately suffers by letting them just get on with is me/the mother. This is a Jo - Mother of Teenagershttp://www.motherofteenagers.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-52807636517838853672017-03-14T18:05:12.200+04:002017-03-14T18:05:12.200+04:00Oh what a fantastic post - my husband would love y...Oh what a fantastic post - my husband would love you - it's interesting that it was your husband's approach that inspired you to change - my husband is very similar in his approach - they have to learn and if they don't follow the house rules then they have to pick up the pieces not the parents! There is such a tendency to over parent and that does not help in the real world as you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-91700779427325501642015-11-09T14:22:10.986+04:002015-11-09T14:22:10.986+04:00it's easy on reflection to make changes and my...it's easy on reflection to make changes and my kids were much older before this method kicked in with me and being expats they had to become more independent due to the amount of time i was awaychickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05731936852696584642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-71543849446052143162015-11-09T14:21:23.021+04:002015-11-09T14:21:23.021+04:00it's all over now for me, kids have all left h...it's all over now for me, kids have all left home, but I see other people battling with their kids and wish I'd done things differentlychickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05731936852696584642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-38052740314343349412015-11-01T10:22:55.269+04:002015-11-01T10:22:55.269+04:00This is such a good post, thanks. You make a good ...This is such a good post, thanks. You make a good point about the clothes on the floor that I hadn't considered before - all three of my kids have clothes on the floor all the time! I like the idea of giving them some choice, but that they have to agree.SarahMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04103870858666628645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-900246097326241068.post-24966710738579812302015-10-31T15:48:47.780+04:002015-10-31T15:48:47.780+04:00I remember teaching my daughters the importance of...I remember teaching my daughters the importance of being responsible for their actions and accepting the consequences if they chose not to do something. Olivia was rubbish at appearing on time in the mornings to leave the house and as I was working it would be me who was late for work! After many requests to be ready at 8:20 am we would invariably be late and one morning I drove off in the car Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com