When we moved to South Africa, everyone and I mean everyone whether they'd lived here, visited there or watched a programmes about Africa told us all about the negative stuff, mainly the dangers.
We're flying out to Dubai tonight to find somewhere to live and for hubby to process his work and residency visa applications. We will also receive 'localised' training on rules for entering certain places, travel on public transport, which will effect hubby more than me in regards to 'woman only' compartments at certain times and days, as it won't matter if I travel in a 'mixed' carriage on a train, but could end up getting hubby in serious trouble if he fails to follow the laws.
According to other people and the internet the following apply:
We can't buy or drink alcohol in Dubai
I won't be able to buy a swim suit, let a lone wear one in a public place
Hubby cannot go into a department store without me
I have to have my head covered when I go out
I won't be able to drive
I'll have no rights as a woman
You can't buy pork products
It is illegal to eat, drink, smoke or chew gum in public during Ramadan, inc inside a car
You can't take a bible into Dubai, you cannot discuss Christianity in public and there are no churches
I went to Dubai in January and walked around on my own, sat on the beach, swam in the sea and drank alcohol at a bar. I didn't get arrested or even told off.
I spent a day on a public beach wearing my swim suit.
I ordered a glass of wine with my lunch in the hotel.
I wore shorts, T-shirt and sandals and travelled around Dubai on public transport.
I had bacon for breakfast in the hotel.
I need to check about eating in public during Ramadan and I know hubby can enter a department store, I think it's ladies underwear shops that he can't go into (not that he would anyway).
This is the first year I've seen the TV adverts for John Lewis and Marks and Spencer. I've heard all the hype from the previous years but because I'm currently in the UK I've watched to see what all the fuss is about and I've been very disappointed.
Seriously, do you really think the John Lewis #montythepenguin is a tearjerker? I thought the story line was rather lame and not an advert for the magic of christmas but just another marketing idea to sell penguins.
Why not make a sponsor a real penguin rather than buy a soft cuddly toy? Having visited SAMREC in Port Elizabeth and cuddled a real penguin, let me tell you, they are not soft, not cuddly and geez they don't half stink.
And the Marks and Spencer advert? Magic and Sparkle? It looked like something a Year 6 class put together for an end of term project and I certainly didn't feel the Magic and Sparkle when I visited a branch in Manchester last week.
And as for the Debenhams advert, I'm not sure it's the best message to be sending out that it's ok for a group of unsupervised children to be running freely around a department store, helping themselves to what they want for christmas, do you?
At least with Argos and a couple of other chain stores, they're actually advertising the products they want to shift for christmas and not fooling you into believing the message is all about the spirit of christmas when it's clearly all about making a profit.
Well I've joined every group I can find, from real time meet up groups, there's a British expat community right here where I live in South Africa and then a worldwide expat group that meets locally once a month. I've signed up, logged into expat forums, groups, professionals online on face book, twitter, through google+, in fact you name it, I'm in/on it.
But I don't use any of them anymore. One group lured me in with invites of get togethers to then ask for a monthly fee to access the invites, another group that I met with once and once only and never to be repeated was horrendous, these women (yes they were all women) had no bloody idea about life abroad, they lived in a British community, husbands company had sorted the whole thing, they were here for 2 years only and small children enrolled in British schools and no need to interview or find a maid as one came with the rental property who was also au pair qualified.
The online groups had so many rules and regulations to obey, sign up here, post x amount of comments on other peoples posts, display their badge on your blog, take part in x amount of forum discussions and then you can post a question to ask.
I find the advice offered is too generalised, it also bears little relevance unless it's a advice aimed at Brits moving to South Africa, because there are different processes, procedures to follow depending on where you're from and where you're going to. I prefer the personal touch, I wanted to hear about what went wrong and how it was resolved. I want to hear that it's just as complicated to rent a house, open bank accounts, set up utilities, buy a car, wherever you are in the world and how frustrating it is for everyone else.
I don't want to hear 'oh darling, have a G&T, we're expats. let someone else sort it it for you'
We're currently relocating from South Africa to Dubai. It's not straight forward. Dubai seem to assume we're in the UK and this is this process and when we ask for support moving from South Africa, there is an assumption we are South African.
So if anyone can point me in the direction of a blog, individual or company who have moved British Expats from South Africa to Dubai, I'd be really grateful to hear from them.
I’m not hash tagging anything anymore. Half the time when I
do so on instagram it fails to post the comment and I’m left with a
#silentsunday post, leaving the reader to guess what the picture is all about,
so I stopped doing that and instead joined in with #mysundayphoto with Darren
@onedad3girls where words are permitted. Now you’ll notice I’ve included 2
hashtags in the opening paragraph after stating I won’t be using them anymore,
but what I’m referring to is the random hashtags such as #travel,
#traveltuesday #ttot and various other ones #teens #teenagers and the twitter parties sponsored by various companies usually led by a mums group or a company
promoting their products.
Why? Because rarely anything comes of it, I write travel
blogs, holidays with teens, solo travel, parenting tips, volunteering and charity
work, I hashtag, I link up, I RT others, I interact, I engage and then there’s
a monthly round up or an analysis of the twitter party, Do I get mentioned? Does anyone RT me? Does anyone link back to my blog post? Ha, rarely, if ever.
Other than #mysundayphoto, hashtags don’t actually work for
me. I can follow a conversation, see RT’s from others and interact and engage with individuals without having to promote mums groups, companies or products.
If I’m interested in a subject I see hashtagged, I rarely click on the hashtag
to find out what other people are saying about it, I’ll google the subject and
check the official news sites anyway as I want facts, rarely opinions, although
I have plenty to give.
So from now on the only hashtags you’ll see from me are ones
where I’ve asked to be involved, ones where I want to promote the work of others
such as #SSB2014 the Santa Shoebox project that I’m a coordinator for or if
I’ve entered a competition for where a hashtag forms part of the rules and any campaigns I'm involved with such as SAB18Plus.
What happens when it all goes wrong as a landlord?
My advice is to write the debt off, if you do get anything
back it’ll be a long time coming, if at all. I’ve yet to find out if we’ll get
any money back from our tenants or guarantor and it’s been an extremely stressful process, but since accepting we will probably never recover our money, we’ve
been able to move on, put the past behind us and make sure we take the
necessary precautions to ensure it never happens to us, or others if we can be
of any use, again.
I had a rental agent and a contract and the agent carried
out reference and financial checks and got a guarantor. I thought they were
doing us a favour, turns out the guarantor was needed not a ‘just in case’
In January 2013 I was contacted by the gas insurance company
who informed me my land lord safety certificate was out of date as the tenants
kept missing appointments, so I contacted the agent who said he’d sort it out
and added ‘I’ll make sure January’s payment is made promptly. It was mid month,
so I checked my bank account to discover no money had been received since
October 2012 and that for the previous year it had arrived late every month. On
contacting the agent I also discovered they’d received late payments via the
guarantor on more than one occasion and that before they had bought the company
the first agent had been paying me on time every month out of his own money.
So where now and this was my first mistake I took advice
from the agent who said not to issue eviction notice until they’d caught up
with missing payments and apologizsd for a ‘computer error’.
My contract states I give 2 months notice which was issued
in February and then the agents sold the business and in the process the
tenants were given 3 months notice and a date of May 24th 2013 to
vacate the property.
The tenants moved out August 8th 2013 having not
made a single payment.
I didn’t need a reason to issue a Section 21a eviction
notice. I then had to apply to the court, which I did by flying to the UK to
sort as my insurance company said I wasn’t covered for eviction. A month later
I discovered I was covered and after a lengthy battle they finally agreed to
pay back my court costs and appoint a solicitor. Due to the hassles of living
in South Africa and managing issues from the other side of the world, it was
decided I would remain in the UK until the bailiffs application had been issued
and I spent 4 months in the UK sleeping on sofas at friends and family.
The application to the court gives 2 weeks for the tenants
to respond as to why they cannot move out, once this date is up notice is given
which can be up to 6 months.
The court gave a date mid July and if the tenants didn’t
move out by then I could apply for an application from the bailiffs to forcibly
remove them from my property. Once the date of August 12th was given
I returned to SA for a few weeks until I returned to clean and remarket the
I’d received annual inspections, the last one being in
February 2013 and it did not state the level of dirt or repairs needed to the
property. I also had to replace an oven at the property in the April as the
door ‘fell off’ and if I didn’t I would be in breach of contract and legally
the tenants could withhold rent…that’s a laugh.
In the meantime I went to the Worcester Hub and Festival Housing for advice, technically I was homeless and what they told me still
makes my blood boil. They have advised the tenants to remain in the property
until they receive the notice of eviction from the bailiffs before they can be
rehoused, if they leave before that date they’ve made themselves homeless and
won’t be rehoused.
When I asked what was on offer for me in regards to
accommodation as my 14 year old was returning to the UK in August I was told I
hadn’t secured housing for myself therefore I’d made myself technically
homeless and wouldn’t be offered any accommodation. I had a 6-bed house I was
trying to get back into, still paying a mortgage and not receiving any rent.
On completion of the exit inspection we sent local companies
in for quotes which totaled over £5000 to clean and redecorate the house, plus
the cost of the over grown garden, oven and window cleaning. Both companies
that cleaned the oven and windows stated that these were the worst they’d ever
seen and when I told the oven cleaning guy the oven was only 4 months old, he
nearly passed out.
Having decided it was cheaper to clean the property
ourselves I flew to the UK in September 2013 for 3 weeks and with help from
friends @stephiemalverns @niffer62 and @brackett1 and my neighbours children
and a steam mop from @bissellclean and hubby flying over for the last week we
got the house ship shape and back on the rental market, with new agents, no
guarantor and indepth reference checks after turning down people on housing
benefit, people who had been backrupt and people who needed a guarantor.
In total we spent £2500 on repairs, paint, general DIY and
preofessional cleaners, plus £700 on two return flights plus replacing items such
as wardrobes, desk and a stolen chest freezer and the new tenants didn’t move
in until December 2013, so with lost rent and a mortage to pay we were out of
pocket over £8000.
So now to recovering the money from the guarantor and a
solicitor who went on maternity leave.
Despite having sent all the receipts to the solicitor and
them having the proof of missing payments from the first agent and the exit
report. I’ve since had to send detailed photos to justify my need to spend so
much on cleaning materials and to illustrate the damage to the walls, doors and
I’m still waiting. The contract states the guarantor is
liable for rent and damage and it also states that professional cleaning is to
be carried out on leaving the property. Oven, carpets, windows, curtains.
I don’t know what the delay is, but when I add this snippet
of information you’ll understand why this has gone on so long.
The solicitor was unable to locate the tenants or the
guarantor, she hired a tracing company who came back with zero results.
I turned to google and face book and found them, addresses,
emails and contact numbers within a day.
The current situation is we are waiting to hear back from the solicitor to say we will accept the £2,000 offered by the guarantor, without prejudice. He states we received the deposit back which covered the professional cleaning costs and the £2,000 covers the rent outstanding. He has failed to acknowledge the stolen items, the court costs, the damaged items, including a solid wooden door and furniture. Let alone the building work, complete redecorating of all the rooms, new toilet seats, etc, etc, etc.
We are accepting the offer as I fear we won't get any more. I think we are quite lucky that we got off so lightly.