Friday, 31 July 2015

Organising your wardrobe

I find that I always seem to wear a variation of below


Jeans or 3 quarter jeans, black t shirt and black sandals

Living in Dubai means I don't need to think about jumpers and coats etc, but when I visit the UK, I add black boots and a black coat.

I do own clothes that don't aren't black or denim, but not many. I have my favourites and tend to stick to them.

After a recent holiday and an 8 hour time difference to adjust to, my trusted favourites were all in the wash for a week and I was forced to wear something different and once I'd caught up with the washing and ironing I decided to turn the hangers of the clothes I hadn't worn around and and not wear anything else until I'd gone through my entire wardrobe.



Towards the end of the 3 weeks, I found all I had left was this combination.


I was actually back to where I started, black top and denim bottom, so I think to some extent I failed, yet I've worn every single item of clothing I own, including most of my dresses, apart from one or two which aren't suitable for wearing in Dubai, without a jacket, which in this heat just doesn't work.

Upon leaving South Africa we packed up all our winter clothes, which are kept in a separate wardrobe, which I had a sort through this week and found 5 skirts I'd forgotten I'd owned as I don't really like wearing them, but after wearing the denim skirt I've put them back in the main wardrobe and I'll be wearing them next week, assuming they fit me still.


There were a few tops I appear to have outgrown and a couple of pairs of jeans I'd been hanging on to in the hope I'd fit them again one day, but I'm afraid that the 'one day' has now passed and along with couple of tops they've been put in the charity pile and 2 pairs of combat trousers have been relegated to the 'beach wear' and 'dog walk in the desert' shelf.

Thursday, 30 July 2015

Trees in Dubai with #HDYGG

Seeing as Horse Chestnut trees don't like excessively dry conditions, I was surprised to find a conker when I went out walking the other evening.

I can only assume that the conker has come from a child's toy box that has recently been sorted with several items making it to the trash.

Having googled 'Do horse chestnut trees grow in Dubai?' I was surprised to see what trees did and didn't grow in these harsh conditions and have spent the last few days wandering around the neighbourhood with my camera looking for and identifying local trees.

I really struggled with online identification and finding a book shop, so hubby and visited the local garden centre where I bought a book on gardening in Oman and the UAE.



Ficus Microcarpa - Laurel Fig


Can be grown in containers or reach a height of 10ms if grown in open ground. A fast growing tree, with shiny leaves that burn in the height of summer. It germinates easily and cuttings grow quickly.
This tree is growing in our garden in the sand.

Washingtona - Mexican Fan Palm, Washington Palm


 A slow growing tree reaching up to 4.5m's in around 10 years. The leaves are around 3m's long, however most of these trees in our neighbourhood, including this one in our garden are in poor condition, despite having a high salt  and drought tolerance. 
As the leaves die off they are cut back and form part of the trunk.
It is self seeding and propagates well from a string of black fruits, each containing 1 seed, from a white flower.






Ficus Religiosa - sacred Bo, Bo Tree, Peepul


A tree sacred to Buddists and Hindus as it is said this is the tree the Buddha gained enlightenment. grows up to 15ms and is fast growing up to 3ms in it's first 2 years.
Prior to mature the leaves are pale pink.
This tree prefers rich soil. But has some salt tolerance, considering this tree is growing in the sand about 1.5kms from the sea. 
Cultivates well and is self seeding.


Prosopis Cineraria - Arabic name: Ghaf



Found in the desert, grows well in sand. A fast growing tree reaching 12m's in height and one of the best providers of shade. 
Prior to the development of Dubai, these trees were the tallest structures and used as landmarks. 
These trees are are an important source of nectar for honey production. In spring the tree produces pale yellow catkin like flowers and slender pods producing small black seeds, which are propagated after soaking the seeds over night and shallow planting. The pods and leaves are also used for animal feed.
For the seeds to germinate they require a temperature of around 25-30c and germinate within 5-10 days. The seedlings need planting out when they are young as the root system can reach depths up to 35m's which helps it stabilise in the sand.


Phoenix Dactylifera - Date Palm. Arabic name: Nakhl



The region produces around 1 million metric tonnes of dates every year. There are 150 varieties of grapes grown in the region.
The leaves are called Fronds and grow up to 6 m's long. 
Grown from seed the date tree takes up to 8 year to produce fruit. 
Dates are only produced on a female plant, which requires pollination from a male tree usually carried through the wind. In a plantation there is approximately 1 male tree to every 50 female trees. The dates are tied up to prevent damage and take around 6 months to ripen.
In summer a tree in fruit requires 120 litres of water per day.



Leucaena Leucocephala - Speedy Tree


No longer considered a garden plant as it was originally planted to feed cattle and withstands repeated cutting back, making it difficult to keep under control. Self propagating, it's seed pods are packed full of seeds and germinates quickly.
Grows rapidly over 8m's in height.



Ziziphus Spina-Christi - Christ Thorn Tree. Arabic name: Sidr




Grows to a height of 10m's, it is salt and drought tolerant
This tree produces an edible flesh sold at local markets, it smells a bit like an apple, but I haven't tasted it yet as this was a fruit I collected from the ground.
To propagate the seed, it needs to be soaked to rehydrate it and only half bury as it needs light to germinate. Seeds fully planted can take 7 months to germinate. It also requires a temperature of between 25-30c to grow.






Wednesday, 29 July 2015

Looking for a friend

I'm lonely. I go out everyday when hubby is at work. I've sent off endless job and volunteer applications, I've met up with lots of people for coffee and lunches, but I haven't found myself a friend yet.

In the UK I had friends who lived on the street, friends I'd made in places I'd lived previously and kept in touch with. I popped into friends houses unannounced and they popped into ours. We met for shopping, going for a walk, for the kids to play in the park and for coffees out just for the sake of it, just because we could.

I'm still in touch with these friends, I visit when I'm in the UK, we write letters, face book, some of them have been out to visit us, either on their own or with their families. I value these friendships. They've been made through a share of common interests, through the children, who despite going their different ways with schools and careers, we've stayed in touch and remained very good friends, despite our lives changing and with the huge distance there is now between us.

In South Africa I had friends I met through volunteering, very good friends, but our relationship was cut short by us relocating to Dubai. We are still very good friends, we write, whats app daily. I'm going back to visit for a month later this year and 1 set of friends are staying with us on their way to Europe, they don't need to visit Dubai other than the fact we live here and they miss us and vice versa.

It took around 18 months to start making friends in South Africa, I went out for coffees, lunches, joined groups and met people and although like now, everyone is very nice, helpful and supportive, it's not the same as a having a handful of close friends, on your doorstep, that just pop in unannounced, who don't mind what state yours or their house is in, if they're on their way out and you just go along with them, whether it's the kids football or just a dental appointment.

I'm 44, my children have left home, including the youngest at 16 who has been in UK boarding school for the past 2 years. I have 3 very good friends in the UK, whose children are now adults. I have three very good friends who still have school aged children. I have 1 good friend who doesn't have children. We are all a similar age, live a similar life style (despite us living in Dubai) we are at the other end of the phone for emergencies, we are more than often the first people we turn to with our news. My friends all know one another and some of them are friends together. But their not here.

I need a friend to come to pick up the phone within a few minutes of reading this and tell me to get showered and dressed and meet them for a coffee, like NOW. Not arrange a coffee in a week's time, not a rearranged appointment, not a networking session.

I've got plenty of things to do. It's 10am, I've prepared tonights dinner, I've run the hoover round, made the bed, watered the garden and walked the dog. The 16yo is here till the end of August, so I have company in the day, someone here that will actually talk back to me, unlike the cat and dog.

I'm networking daily, I'm making contacts, going places out of my comfort zone.

I'm spending today contacting more volunteer organisations, working with children in schools, children with disabilities, football clubs and other sports organisations. I've applied to work with animal organisations, cats, dogs, turtles. I've adapted my CV to meet the needs of the organisation, sent copies and covering letters to the Embassies. I'm co-hosting a linky for the school holidays, I have my daily photo prompts that get me out and about. I'm blogging, fixing things, making things, sorting things.

I have a bill to pay, yes I can pay it online but that reduces the opportunities to meet people. By going out to pay the bill, I get out the house, despite the heat, I can have a coffee, do a spot of people watching.
I make eye contact, I smile at people, I'll pick a busy cafe where I need to ask if it's ok to share a table and who knows? maybe today I meet someone who is on their own and is looking for a friend also.

Monday, 27 July 2015

Preparing for the teenage invasion


The 16 year old arrives in Dubai tomorrow from the UK for 30 days, that’s a whole month.

The teen lives with neither parent, in fact he doesn’t even live in a conventional family, he lives in boarding school, where people are paid to care for him including his washing and ironing. They act as his alarm clock, they tell him to wash, tidy his room, do his homework and he complies…why? Because of peer pressure.

He didn’t behave like that at home; everything was a constant battle, mind you to be fair, since the age of 7 he only lived at home for 2 and a half years and that was when we lived in South Africa.

This is his first trip to Dubai in the summer, he found it too hot over Easter and the temps were at least 10c cooler.

He’s sent a list of demands prior to his visit, sadly this house isn’t viewed as home, it’s the Parent’s home, but not the kids home, even though the 2 youngest moved with us from South Africa to Dubai so they could be part of the experience, but sadly due to the company not sorting out the visas in time, they stayed in hotels with us rather than living in the house for a month before returning to the UK.

His demands are as follows:

Wifi in his bedroom and it must be wireless
Air con that he can leave on 24/7 if he wants to
 Tickets to see Adam Savage in Mythbusters in Abu Dhabi on August 14th
Unlimited cold drinks
A Sunday Roast every weekend
Ice pops


We’ll happily comply with all the above, I’m cooking a roast for tomorrow evening, the water cooler has been refreshed, tickets for Adam Savage have been purchased, the air con is on 24/7 anyway, but shhhhh don’t tell him that.

I’ve not given him my list of demands yet, although I did ask him if he'll come to the desert with me to let the dog play and accompany me to the Aquarium which he's agreed to willingly.

I’m not actually bothered about whether he washes, what time he sleeps till or what he wears. Although I have been out and bought toiletries, clothes and beach gear as he never packs it. His last trip here he packed all his school books, a winter coat, 2 jumpers, 3 pairs of pants and a couple of odd socks.


It’s just going to be nice to have him home.

Sunday, 26 July 2015

My Sunday Photo - Week 30


Today I went to collect my AED 1000 prize which consists of 5 x AED 200 vouchers for meals and beauty treatments.

The vouchers are valid for a year and having checked the restaurants and spa online I can get 2 for the price of 1. There is no minimum spend required and as we are always looking for new places to go, this is a fantastic win as we love eating out and exploring new places.


Saturday, 25 July 2015

Week 30 - Project 365


I've reached the conclusion that I don't need to 'get out more' as Kay Burley told me in response to one of my many rants at Sky TV. I don't need to find more things to do and I don't need any more coffees.

What I do need is a purpose and fast. I'm bored, I'm not being challenged as much. I'm loving my free time, reading books, watching youtube, sewing, gardening, blogging, walking the dog, exploring new places, but I'm not being challenged and my brain isn't being stretched.

I started off this week googling 'what are the symptoms of legionnaires disease?' and 'how long after an insect bite in Canada can I expect to become ill?' Why? I've been so tired, I'm sleeping 7 hours a night and then I'm sleeping 6 hours in the day. It's too hot to go out for a walk or explore further a field and I've become stuck in this little routine of nothingness. My muscles are aching from inactivity, my eyes actually hurt and in general I feel like I've got the flu.

I had a busy and exciting 3 weeks in Canada and upon my return to the desert heat hubby left for the UK for over a week.

Sunday. I did some sewing, the ironing and washed the dogs bed and blankets and eventually I managed to go out at 6pm for a coffee then I washed and walked the dog and went straight back to bed. Apart from the cake I had in Starbucks I'm not even sure if I ate that day.

Monday. Having found no links with my symptoms and google, I decided I should keep a food diary just to make sure I was eating. I had porridge for breakfast and for a snack had strawberries and a health bar. I drank my 2 litres of liquid by 11am and after some more sewing (I'm finally repairing cushion covers, clothes etc) I had a sleep and a trip to a mall a bit further a field to discover they had a circus show for Eid. I decided to stay out for an early dinner before walking the dog and attempting to stay up late.

Tuesday. Hubby arrived home at 1am and I'm sure my sleep will now be messed up further. The day was a write off.

Wednesday. I and to go to meet HR to sort out paperwork for the 16yos residency application, it seems no one is able to tell me what I need as there never was a court order when I divorced his father.

Thursday. First coffee morning since Ramadan, it was lovely to catch up with the expat ladies group, I stopped off on the way home to food shop and managed to stay awake all day, although it didn't make me feel any better. Hubby was on conference calls till 10pm.

Friday. I didn't feel like it, but we got up early and took Bob into the desert for a play in the lakes, I packed the camping stove and we enjoyed a little picnic breakfast while Bob splashed around in the water. We found a dog friendly cafe near the beach in the afternoon and went back to the beach in the evening for a swim.

Saturday. Another lazy day, although I spent the morning sorting out paperwork for our son's residency application, yes it's been 7 months and it's still not sorted.....grrrrrrr We found another new cafe to visit for a spot of lunch and in the evening it was back to the beach for a picnic dinner.

Day 200 #onedailypositive #sign #fmsphotoaday #RoadTrip #snaphappybritmums #project365 #50DayofSummer



There's nothing better than a road trip around South Africa to see some amazing signs. This has to be one of the few signs that didn't actually make me laugh when I saw it. Taken in St Lucia in KZN, North of Durban in 2014. There are no fences between you and the wildlife, the hippos wander up into the town at night, the crocodiles are just there, as in close enough to look at without binoculars. So it worried me greatly to see this small child running around while his parents were at least 100ms away on the waters edge watching the hippos.


Day 201 ‪#‎onedailypositive‬ ‪#‎car‬ ‪#‎fmsphotoaday‬ ‪#‎WaterFight‬‪#‎snaphappybritmums‬ ‪#‎project365‬ ‪#‎50DaysofSummer‬ 



I have hundreds of pictures of Super cars but couldn't think how to incorporate water fight until I saw this @mecartomall ‪#‎Ramadan‬ ‪#‎Eid‬ ‪#‎EidAlFatr‬ ‪#‎EidMubarak‬ ‪#‎Dubai‬‪#‎MyDubai‬ ‪#‎MyView‬ ‪#‎HappyGatherings‬

Day 202 ‪#‎onedailypositive‬ ‪#‎real‬ ‪#‎fmsphotoaday‬ ‪#‎HandWriting‬‪#‎snaphappybritmums‬ ‪#‎project365‬ ‪#‎50DaysofSummer‬



Day 203 ‪#‎onedailypositive‬ ‪#‎fake‬ ‪#‎fmsphotoaday‬ ‪#‎nature‬‪#‎snaphappybritmums‬ ‪#‎project365‬ ‪#‎50DaysofSummer‬ 



In the absence of rain in Dubai there is a lot of artificial grass, however I'm at a loss as to why it's been laid like this.

Day 204 ‪#‎onedailypositive‬ ‪#‎toy‬ ‪#‎fmsphotoaday‬ ‪#‎green‬‪ #‎snaphappybritmums‬ ‪#‎project365‬ ‪#‎50DaysofSummer‬



Day 205 ‪#‎onedailypositive‬ ‪#‎bloom‬ ‪#‎fmsphotoaday‬ ‪#‎BeachBag‬‪#‎snaphappybritmums‬ ‪#‎project365‬ ‪#‎50DaysofSummer‬ 



Blast if I'd bloom(ing) known these photo prompts 2 weeks ago I'd have bought the flowery beach bag rather than the flamingo one

Day 206 ‪#‎onedailypositive‬ ‪#‎TwoOfUs‬ ‪#‎fmsphotoaday‬ ‪#‎sandcastles‬‪#‎snaphappybritmums‬ ‪#‎project365‬ ‪#‎50DaysofSummer‬ 



There's love and devotion for you, hubby collecting wet sand in the bucket so I could build a sandcastle for today's photo prompt.

Thursday, 23 July 2015

What happens in the garden when you leave hubby in charge for 3 weeks


This is what happens when you leave hubby in charge of the garden for 3 weeks.


Okay it was just one plant that is hanging under the eaves of the house

The tomato plants never survived the move from the direct sunlight to the more shaded area.


Only 4 of my seedlings survived the heat, they are basil.


The petunias flowered forever but came to a natural end.



I had no idea what I had planted out in the sand pit, I thought they were Petunias but it appears they are Celosia and have different coloured feathery bits on the ends.


There was a sale on at the Garden Centre so I picked up a selection of perennials for around 20p a plant.


Again the weeds seem to be growing nicely. The roots grow much deeper than the plants and that seems to ensure their survival.


It has been so hot the past month around 42c and with the humidity being high the ground just isn't drying out in-between watering, which can only benefit the plants.


There is something funny going on with the Bougainvillea, this plant is changing from white into pink over the 3 weeks I was away.

         Apparently this is caused by changes in temperature as well as soil nutrition and/or disease.

Apart from watering, this is the end of Creating a Garden in the Desert until late November. I have a trip booked to the UK in September and in October and November I will be working on charity projects in South Africa and on my return I will start sewing a wider variety of flower seeds and I'm going to attempt to grow potatoes, beans and strawberries.

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