I offered advice tonight in reply to a tweet about managing their teenagers defient behaviour. I realised I wasn't just talking from experience but talking from the point as a Mother thats not only been there and done that but as a Mother that has openingly asked for help and received great advice from friends and family and from twitter and I'd like to share some of the things that have worked for me, and worked well.
dont send a child away to grandparents.......she'll think shes getting away with it...
teenagers dont view things the same way we do...if i change my mind they dont see it as a victory or that youve backed down
pick your arguments carefully and when you say no...see it through to the end......we've just had to replace a door that the 15 yo
punched and kick in a row over the xbox, hes been docked £3 a week pocket money taking the money all in one go would have made
it worse...we talked about it 2 days later and he understood why i had banned the xbox and why he was paying for the door
dont tackle them when they are angry wait till things have calmed down take her out somewhere and discuss it she wont see it as a
a reward for negative behaviour as teenagers forget things and move on much quicker than adults..there endenth the lesson
always tackle a child about behaviour at least 24hrs later once they move on...thats my motto everything inbetween is damage limitation
we move on really quick and as you know from my blog and tweets it gets really bad here sometimes