Saturday, 20 November 2021

Week 46 One daily Positive and Project 365 Back to Northern Ireland - A week of Freddie

My blog post this week reflects my frustration with social media. It's not about people not sharing their news, it's about the worry of me telling someone face to face and them posting a message online. Also if I had  posted about going to Belfast last week, everyone would automatically know the baby was here.

Due to complicated issues, my freedom to talk openly online about my life is restricted by Peter's ex wife. Our eldest grandchild has to be referred to as 'Grandchild', as the ex has been excluded from child 2's life, at his request (he is in his 30's and we agree that he's made the right decision) As far as child 2 is concerned, I am mum and I am Granny. This also means we can't/don't post photos of our grandchild. I'm always worried I will slip up somewhere and constantly checking I use the pronouns 'they/them'

We also had to complete child 1's End of Life Plan. She is profoundly disabled and is in care. She isn't ill, it's a physical disability. The form was more suited for someone who was capable of making informed decisions about their lives, so most of the sections read 'Consult parents, unless I outlive them, then please consult my brothers and their wives/children.'

317 A long drive home, time to unpack, shop and load the sofa bed in the car to take to mum at her new home tomorrow. Popped round the neighbours to share baby photos and to say thank you, with flowers, for looking after the cat while we were away. Evening spent in front of the TV.


318 Walked the dog and then down to the flat in Monmouth to carry out some repairs between tenants, sadly repairs are major. I met a friend for coffee, then over to mums to drop the sofa off and set it up. I've not seen my mum for over a year, we've been in different bubbles so no hugging. Then off to see grandchild 2b (so numbered as they are the child no 2 and his wife 2a) who lives a few minutes away.


319 Up early and caught up with emails, blogging and other crap I had to sort out. I came to a halt around 9am and then I kicked my arse into gear around midday. Filled up with fuel £67 FFS, anyone remember the strikes when fuel went over £1 a litre? Did some washing and sorting baby clothes I've been given to take to 4b (newborn of child 4 and his wife 4a) Good news, baby came out of hospital this evening. Sorted out some gifts for posting, Watched TV and bed late. 


320 Walked into town to get a zip fixed on a leather handbag, we were out two hours, I cooked a roast for lunch and spent the afternoon filled in some financial paperwork/tax forms that had to be posted. It was very stressful, also dealing with the aftermath of yet another tenant.


321 A day of tidying and cleaning, the spare car and house keys have been missing for several weeks now, no idea where they've gone. I found a hairdressers to get my hair sorted after the previous cut at another place and had my nails done. Peter had his flu jab.


322 Off to meet a friend to organise repairs to the flat, DIL and grandchild 4a and 4b, joined us for a coffee and a wander round the shops. A visit to the Doctors to organise further blood tests; whilst my ferritin levels have moved back into the normal range there are still a few other bloods that need sorting. Friend came round for rearranged Friday night chips and wine.


323 Early morning flight to Belfast to meet 4b, Freddie. Peter stayed at home to look after the dog, he'll come over another time, soon. No idea how long I'll be out here for.


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14 comments:

  1. What a tough week. Ex's are a pain in the bum and it must have been hard thinking about an end of life plan for Child 1. Sending hugs.
    Aww! What lovely photos of the baby! x

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  2. Oh gorgeous pic of 4B. Good to hear other baby is out of hospital and home. Sounds like there was lots going on this week.

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  3. Love that last photo. So pleased he's finally home and you're getting to have lots of cuddles. Fuel prices are insane, makes me glad that I don't need to drive much at all right now #365

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    1. don't why I'm moaning about fuel prices, i'll be doing more airmiles for the foreseeable future

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  4. Social media is so tricky especially when sharing information is so sensitive. It must have been hard filling in an end of life care plan for child 1. So glad that baby is out of hospital. The photos are lovely. Lovely to get some cuddles too and to finally meet them. #project365

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    1. so lovely to finally meet the new baby. Yes the end of life care plans were tricky but we won't be around for ever and it's nice to have our views expressed

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  5. Awww that final picture is lovely, little one is so adorable!

    And glad he's home!

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  6. It sounds very complicated with families at times. But your doing a great job and loving all the baby pictures in this weeks update. Glad you have managed to catch up with a friend, sounds like you needed it with a busy week of organising things.

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    1. sure do rely on being able to see my friends over the past two years

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  7. So happy to see baby pics, completely jealous! Hope you have not been affected by any travel limits. #project 365

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    1. thankfully we're both within the UK so no restrictions as of yet

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