Thursday, 25 December 2014

Christmas in Dubai



I can confirm that Christmas does happen in Dubai, yet life goes on as normal at the same time.

The decorations are up, the christmas music is playing, only interrupted by the call for prayer, staff are wearing santa hats, there are adverts for christmas gifts, the coffee shops are selling the festive drinks and the sun is shining.










I ordered new tags for the animals on tuesday and was informed they would be ready for collection on thursday. The builder made an appointment to come round to price up the repairs to our villa, this afternoon at 4.30pm. It's a full working week, there is no pubic holiday.

It doesn't feel like christmas, despite decorating the hotel room and putting presents around the tree.





It is festive, we are used to christmas being a hot and sunny day having lived in South Africa for 4 years, maybe it's because the kids are older now (26, 25, 22, 19, 15) maybe it's because we don't currently have a home because we are relocating. I've no idea, no plans and more importantly no upset for what today may or may not bring.

We'll pop out tomorrow to the dog and cat, buy food for a picnic and head to the beach for an hour or two, then we have to pop to the pet shop to collect the new tags and then maybe dinner at the Marina.

It's going to be different, thats for sure, but it doesn't mean it is wrong, or sad, or anything else for that matter other than how we choose to spend our christmas this year.



Wednesday, 24 December 2014

I'm new to these parts, can you help me please?

Why is this such a difficult concept for people to grasp?

It's not just about being in another country, assuming things will be done the same as back home, it's simple things like visiting a new coffee shop and approaching the counter to place an order and being told rather firmly that you need to sit at a table and they'll come to you.

It's the assumption made by the people that you ask for help from, that YOU know what you are doing, in my opinion based on the fact that they have little or no knowledge that things might work differently elsewhere. My mistake is to make my own assumption that I might not be the only person who is on their first visit and that when I explain that they may actually help me.

Yesterday I went to a coffee shop near the hotel in Dubai, there were tables and chairs outside and two, what I assumed to be waiters, dressed in a distinctive uniform stood in the area, so I ask if I just take a seat, they say yes, so I then asked if they could bring me a latte, to which one replied 'it's self service' on approaching the counter I'm asked for my order then told to take a seat and they'll bring it to me.

It isn't just a miscommunication or understanding of language spoken, it's happened in the UK. We were in Nandos in November in the UK, we had booked a table, were shown to it, given a menu and when my mum and I ordered coffee, we were told by the waitress to order and pay at the counter. Now I know I  have to do this for example in Whetherspoons, because I've tried booking a table for 20 in the past and told I couldn't. So I naturally assume that because I've booked a table, because the waitress has shown me to it and given me a menu, that I can actually order from her.

I just don't understand why people have to be so rude about it, dismissive, to the point of sometimes taking the mick, a little snigger and a funny look.

The thing is, I know a lot about a lot of stuff that maybe you don't know and when employed as a child welfare officer I assumed that when you came to me for help and support it was because you needed my assistance, that why you came to me. exactly the same applies if I go into a shop, cafe, restaurant, bank, municipality and ask. 'Please can you help me? I new to these parts'


Sunday, 21 December 2014

My Sunday photo - living in Dubai

Well it's day 4 of our new lives in Dubai. And again I'm stuck to know which photo to post.
Do I post a picture of the farewell at the airport? The guest house we spent our last week in South Africa in? The dog and the cat in their crates to the airport? The hotel in Dubai where we stay until our container arrives or even our new home? The picture of the dog and cat arriving safely?
Too many choices. My rule though is that I post a picture taken on the Sunday and as today is the first time I have had the opportunity to go exploring on my own with Bob as hubby is at work (Sunday is a working day, the start of the week) I thought I'd show you a picture of the Burg Al Arab, the most expensive hotel in Dubai, if not the world.
Bob and I walked for 10 minutes zig zagging through the streets till we hit the beach. Unfortunately dogs aren't allowed on the beach, but I suspect Bob and I will be making regular visits to walk along the prom. 


Sunday, 14 December 2014

My Sunday Photo - Last Sunday in Africa

So many pictures I want to post again this week. It is our last weekend in South Africa, the import papers for the cat and dog have been applied for. The air freight has been collected and we've moved into a guest house until we fly to Dubai on wednesday.

This photo was taken driving through Soshanguve this morning at 9am on our way to a Santa Shoebox Celebration for 160 rural vulnerable children living in poverty in South Africa.
It was my last Santa Shoebox celebration, it has been an amazing 4 years and I feel priviledged to have had the opportunity to have met the most amazing and humble people I've ever come across. 

I will continue my fundraising in Dubai and have a flight booked to return to South Africa in October 2015.

Tuesday, 9 December 2014

The reality of a company move


Due to a massive cock up when we moved from the UK to South Africa in 2011 as in HR failed us and then a minor hiccup again in September this year when we discovered it would be too long and complicated to renew our visas due to a change in the law, we find ourselves off on a new adventure to Dubai.

Despite there being an actual package in place for this move, an opportunity to visit Dubai and meet with HR, the fact that HR and all the individuals and companies involved will actually email me directly this time, things are still not going smoothly, but they are going to plan.

The allowance for moving covers most things but not everything and again we find ourselves out of pocket financially, with time and stress to relocate to Dubai. This is not a choice we've made to move from one country to another, it's a decision made by my husbands company, although we do have the choice to say 'no thank you' but we'd still have to leave South Africa at our own expense.

The relocation package covers the cost of shipping, air freight, flights for hubby, me and 15yo and the cat and dog, includes 30 days furnished accommodation and the services of a relocation firm in regards to visa applications, renting a house and connecting the utilities, which is far more assistance than we had when we moved here.

However, we are financially out of pocket again and to a considerable amount. We are responsible for the cat and dogs injections, paperwork and import/export papers. I bought a car when the Rand was 11-1, I sold it at 18-1. The same with the deposit for the house which we will get back, but probably after we leave. I've had to hire a car as this is South Africa after all and although I can walk to the local shops, I can't get to the Dr's, physio etc. 

We had to travel to the UK to have our documents attested, the company paid for flights and car hire and one or two nights accommodation, but the rest of the time we paid for all the costs related to the trip. We also had to pay up front over a thousand pounds for our documents, hotels, fuel, etc in Rand as we have no UK income which we will get refunded back in Dubai as AED meaning we lose out again on the conversion rate.

Our furniture takes 42 days to arrive in Dubai and our air shipment takes between 13-20 days to arrive. We only have 30 days accommodation provided, what about the other 12 days?

I'm on 5 of 7 nights on an airbed which doubles up as my sofa, desk and dining room table. My back is killing me (I have an old injury) hence the need for car hire to get to the Dr's etc. We have 3 nights from Friday at a guest house after the air freight is collected and then we fly to Dubai on the 15th.

The time we've spent on the move is unmeasurable and this has caused considerable stress also. We had to list all our items and provide a cost of replacement value in Dubai of which I have no idea if I've over or under valued our items. I've had to get quotes for garden services and cleaning firms as well as the removal companies coming round to quote. I've lost valuable time with my charity and volunteer work and had to sacrifice saying some goodbyes due to time restraints and lack of transport.

When we arrive we have no car, no cell phone, but we have an unfurnished house and a 19yo with an airbed who will move into the property to look after the cat and dog. We will have no bank account until we sort it asap, but there will be electricity, water and internet at the property. The 15yo and I will have to make our way to the house each day, at our own expense in a country where we don't really know how to get around, with no one to guide us and not knowing a single person. 

I'm on the verge of naming hubbies employer, something I have never done due to not making his working life difficult, but my personal life is suffering again especially when I know I've got to go through the whole process of meeting people, making friends, working out how everything works, not wanting to leave South Africa in the first place.

But at least this time we are moving to Dubai, a safe country and not South Africa where we were scared shitless to step outside the front door.

Monday, 8 December 2014

My Sunday Photo - Race for Dubai

I've been torn this week with #mysundayphoto. Our furniture has been packed and is on it's way to Dubai, we spent Saturday at the Alaskan Informal settlement in Mamelodi saying emotional goodbyes to the Viva staff and children and today at Sun City at the Nedbank Golf Challenge.
Today was something different for me, a break from the norm. We've spent 3 months preparing for our move from South Africa to Dubai. I spend my, none paid, working week in various facilities in townships so I thought I'd post a picture of Danny Willet winning the Nedbank Golf Challenge on the Gary Player course  in South Africa as this match marks the #RaceForDubai which I thought quite ironic  considering next year, we'll be living in Dubai and will probably be at that tournament cheering Willet on. 

Tuesday, 2 December 2014

Express VPN Trial

On moving to South Africa in 2011 we rented a furnished apartment which included DSTV and on channel 120 we discovered BBC Entertainment. Within a few months we had tired of constant reruns of 'Keeping up Appearances' and after 4 years we know every answer on 'Who wants to be a Millionaire' 2001-2002.

As a family we all enjoy sport and you can't fault DSTV for their sports coverage, especially the football including the 3pm Saturday kick offs. The films are very good, but TV series aren't advertised and we often miss the first couple of episodes, despite there being a catch up channel, it only allows access to the last episode.

We were unable to watch TV programmes on the internet as it was equivalent to dial up speed and would take several hours to 'buffer' before playing the programme and we only had 9GBs a month allowance.

4 years on the speed has improved, the allowance has raised to 50GB a month and the kids have left home. I've been watching a lot of British TV series on You tube, but due to broadcasting rights, I often get half way through a series to discover 'content removed'

I was very pleased to be offered a year's free trial of Express VPN via Tots100. As a SAH(M) the TV is a very good friend of mine and I find I work a lot better with 'audible wallpaper' on in the background. I've been without my car more often than not and living in South Africa, public transport just isn't an option so I've been spending endless days at home, on my own.

I downloaded the software onto an old laptop that I use for internet access only and via a USB cable I've connected it to the main TV, so hubby and I can watch TV together in the evenings. We also like to keep up with the British news but find Sky TV more of a magazine style programme and BBC World Service doesn't go into enough detail. The other news channels are American, such as CNN.

We move to Dubai next month and have been visiting this week to familiarise ourselves with the country and customs. The trouble we have watching TV online in South Africa is that the internet is very slow compared to some other countries and constantly 'buffers' during the programmes.
In Dubai the internet is faster, more reliable and it was easier to watch On Demand programmes and the internet is unlimited over there compared to being capped here.

Monday, 1 December 2014

How do you approach things you really don't want to do?

It's moving day, friends came round yesterday for a braai and the goodbyes were said.

The house has been sorted into 4 sections.

Donations

Suitcases

Air freight

Shipping

At the moment the house is a bloody mess. I arrived back in South Africa 5 days ago after getting all the paperwork ready in the UK and flying to Dubai to go house hunting.

Family are asking me if I'm excited, friends are saying that they marvel at my calmness and organisational skills. I'm just amazed I haven't had a major breakdown like I did when we first moved abroad in 2011.

So how have I approached this move to Dubai? This new exciting adventure I'm on?

Daily. That's all, day to day. An international move with an expiring visa is like skating on thin ice. The timescales and requirements have to be adhered to. There's no 'tomorrow' It's all about what needs doing right now and not thinking about the 'what next?'

Despite this being our second relocation abroad it doesn't mean we know what we are doing. Quite the opposite intact. Different paperwork is required, different processes, different worries and this move involves a cat and a dog.

I'm sorry i can't explain to you when you ask 'what is happening?' 'what do you have to do?' because until we complete each task and are set the next one, I honestly have NO IDEA. I can sit and worry about all the things that may go wrong, or worry about all the unknown things yet to come, but it doesn't get the house sorted, it doesn't make the move any easier.

i approach it with acceptance that we are leaving South Africa, I knew we would one day, I just didn't bank on that one being quite so soon.

My Sunday Photo - Saying goodbye

The packers arrive tomorrow so with today being the last day with furniture in the house, it was an ideal opportunity to invite friends round to start the goodbyes before leaving South Africa and moving to Dubai.

Dishwasher ran 3 full cycles to clean it all, this was just a fraction of the mess.


Sunday, 23 November 2014

My Sunday Photo - Dubai

Hubby and I arrived in Dubai yesterday with the purpose of renting a house from December 16th.

There's going to be a big change in our life style.


Top photo our current house, bottom photo similar to our new house 1 of a row of 4 and double the rent.

Friday, 21 November 2014

You can't drink alcohol in Dubai and other myths I'm exploring

When we moved to South Africa, everyone and I mean everyone whether they'd lived here, visited there or watched a programmes about Africa told us all about the negative stuff, mainly the dangers.

We're flying out to Dubai tonight to find somewhere to live and for hubby to process his work and residency visa applications. We will also receive 'localised' training on rules for entering certain places, travel on public transport, which will effect hubby more than me in regards to 'woman only' compartments at certain times and days, as it won't matter if I travel in a 'mixed' carriage on a train, but could end up getting hubby in serious trouble if he fails to follow the laws.

According to other people and the internet the following apply:
  • We can't buy or drink alcohol in Dubai
  • I won't be able to buy a swim suit, let a lone wear one in a public place
  • Hubby cannot go into a department store without me
  • I have to have my head covered when I go out
  • I won't be able to drive
  • I'll have no rights as a woman
  • You can't buy pork products
  • It is illegal to eat, drink, smoke or chew gum in public during Ramadan, inc inside a car
  • You can't take a bible into Dubai, you cannot discuss Christianity in public and there are no churches
I went to Dubai in January and walked around on my own, sat on the beach, swam in the sea and drank alcohol at a bar. I didn't get arrested or even told off.

I spent a day on a public beach wearing my swim suit.
I ordered a glass of wine with my lunch in the hotel.
I wore shorts, T-shirt and sandals and travelled around Dubai on public transport.
I had bacon for breakfast in the hotel.

I need to check about eating in public during Ramadan and I know hubby can enter a department store, I think it's ladies underwear shops that he can't go into (not that he would anyway).

Thursday, 20 November 2014

It's beginning to feel a lot like Christmas

This is the first year I've seen the TV adverts for John Lewis and Marks and Spencer. I've heard all the hype from the previous years but because I'm currently in the UK I've watched to see what all the fuss is about and I've been very disappointed.

Seriously, do you really think the John Lewis #montythepenguin is a tearjerker? I thought the story line was rather lame and not an advert for the magic of christmas but just another marketing idea to sell penguins.

Why not make a sponsor a real penguin rather than buy a soft cuddly toy? Having visited SAMREC  in Port Elizabeth and cuddled a real penguin, let me tell you, they are not soft, not cuddly and geez they don't half stink.

And the Marks and Spencer advert? Magic and Sparkle? It looked like something a Year 6 class put together for an end of term project and I certainly didn't feel the Magic and Sparkle when I visited a branch in Manchester last week.

And as for the Debenhams advert, I'm not sure it's the best message to be sending out that it's ok for a group of unsupervised children to be running freely around a department store, helping themselves to what they want for christmas, do you?

At least with Argos and a couple of other chain stores, they're actually advertising the products they want to shift for christmas and not fooling you into believing the message is all about the spirit of christmas when it's clearly all about making a profit.


Wednesday, 19 November 2014

Expat advice

Well I've joined every group I can find, from real time meet up groups, there's a British expat community right here where I live in South Africa and then a worldwide expat group that meets locally once a month. I've signed up, logged into expat forums, groups, professionals online on face book, twitter, through google+, in fact you name it, I'm in/on it.

But I don't use any of them anymore. One group lured me in with invites of get togethers to then ask for a monthly fee to access the invites, another group that I met with once and once only and never to be repeated was horrendous, these women (yes they were all women) had no bloody idea about life abroad, they lived in a British community, husbands company had sorted the whole thing, they were here for 2 years only and small children enrolled in British schools and no need to interview or find a maid as one came with the rental property who was also au pair qualified.

The online groups had so many rules and regulations to obey, sign up here, post x amount of comments on other peoples posts, display their badge on your blog, take part in x amount of forum discussions and then you can post a question to ask.

I find the advice offered is too generalised, it also bears little relevance unless it's a advice aimed at Brits moving to South Africa, because there are different processes, procedures to follow depending on where you're from and where you're going to. I prefer the personal touch, I wanted to hear about what went wrong and how it was resolved. I want to hear that it's just as complicated to rent a house, open bank accounts, set up utilities, buy a car, wherever you are in the world and how frustrating it is for everyone else.

I don't want to hear 'oh darling, have a G&T, we're expats. let someone else sort it it for you'

We're currently relocating from South Africa to Dubai. It's not straight forward. Dubai seem to assume we're in the UK and this is this process and when we ask for support moving from South Africa, there is an assumption we are South African.

So if anyone can point me in the direction of a blog, individual or company who have moved British Expats from South Africa to Dubai, I'd be really grateful to hear from them.

Tuesday, 18 November 2014

Are hashtags worth the effort?



I’m not hash tagging anything anymore. Half the time when I do so on instagram it fails to post the comment and I’m left with a #silentsunday post, leaving the reader to guess what the picture is all about, so I stopped doing that and instead joined in with #mysundayphoto with Darren @onedad3girls where words are permitted. Now you’ll notice I’ve included 2 hashtags in the opening paragraph after stating I won’t be using them anymore, but what I’m referring to is the random hashtags such as #travel, #traveltuesday #ttot and various other ones #teens #teenagers and the twitter parties sponsored by various companies usually led by a mums group or a company promoting their products.

Why? Because rarely anything comes of it, I write travel blogs, holidays with teens, solo travel, parenting tips, volunteering and charity work, I hashtag, I link up, I RT others, I interact, I engage and then there’s a monthly round up or an analysis of the twitter party, Do I get mentioned? Does anyone RT me? Does anyone link back to my blog post? Ha, rarely, if ever.

Other than #mysundayphoto, hashtags don’t actually work for me. I can follow a conversation, see RT’s from others and interact and engage with individuals without having to promote mums groups, companies or products. If I’m interested in a subject I see hashtagged, I rarely click on the hashtag to find out what other people are saying about it, I’ll google the subject and check the official news sites anyway as I want facts, rarely opinions, although I have plenty to give.

So from now on the only hashtags you’ll see from me are ones where I’ve asked to be involved, ones where I want to promote the work of others such as #SSB2014 the Santa Shoebox project that I’m a coordinator for or if I’ve entered a competition for where a hashtag forms part of the rules and any campaigns I'm involved with such as SAB18Plus.






Monday, 17 November 2014

What can you do when it all goes wrong as a landlord?

I've updated the blog this week (May 31st 2015) as we're in-between tenants and after an unpleasant discussion on face book where I was called selfish.

There's plenty of information available if your a tenant, but very little about your rights as a landlord. I'm fed up as a landlord as being seen as the problem by tenants.
We're not running a business, we're letting out our home, that we still pay a mortgage for, at an additional charge. We pay insurances, fees to the rental agent for managing the property. We have to pay for electrical and gas safety checks every year, maintain the property both inside and out. When a tenant chooses to leave we have to in most cases repaint, pay new fees to find new tenants and usually have the property empty with no rent for around 2 months. 
As a landlord while we're living over seas we have to pay hefty fees to transfer money back to the UK and while the tenant is sitting there paying my mortgage for me, we're not actually making any money off it as don't forget there is tax to be paid also and then money has to be found in our host country to pay our rent to someone else to pay their mortgage.
There have been a few conversations on face book and twitter recently, where I've been called selfish for not siding with someone when the landlord has given notice because he wants to sell the property, that we're raking in money and swanning off to live abroad and might need our house back to pay school fees. So what? it is after all our house, which we've paid for, through hard work.

We appreciate that not all tenants are bad tenants and I'd like to see people accepting that not all landlords are unscrupulous , selfish and not caring, but after our experience with our first tenants, the money we lost and the amount we now have to pay for insurance to protect us should it happen again, we no longer accept tenants who require a guarantor or receive any form of income support support including housing allowance. We are not being selfish, it is our right.

Even more alarmingly and what prompted this update was someone of face book admitting to writing their own references.


My advice is to write the debt off, if you do get anything back it’ll be a long time coming, if at all. I’ve yet to find out if we’ll get any money back from our tenants or guarantor and it’s been an extremely stressful process, but since accepting we will probably never recover our money, we’ve been able to move on, put the past behind us and make sure we take the necessary precautions to ensure it never happens to us, or others if we can be of any use, again.

I had a rental agent and a contract and the agent carried out reference and financial checks and got  a guarantor. I thought they were doing us a favour, turns out the guarantor was needed not a ‘just in case’

In January 2013 I was contacted by the gas insurance company who informed me my land lord safety certificate was out of date as the tenants kept missing appointments, so I contacted the agent who said he’d sort it out and added ‘I’ll make sure January’s payment is made promptly. It was mid month, so I checked my bank account to discover no money had been received since October 2012 and that for the previous year it had arrived late every month. On contacting the agent I also discovered they’d received late payments via the guarantor on more than one occasion and that before they had bought the company the first agent had been paying me on time every month out of his own money.

So where now and this was my first mistake I took advice from the agent who said not to issue eviction notice until they’d caught up with missing payments and apologizsd for a ‘computer error’.

My contract states I give 2 months notice which was issued in February and then the agents sold the business and in the process the tenants were given 3 months notice and a date of May 24th 2013 to vacate the property.

The tenants moved out August 8th 2013 having not made a single payment.

I didn’t need a reason to issue a Section 21a eviction notice. I then had to apply to the court, which I did by flying to the UK to sort as my insurance company said I wasn’t covered for eviction. A month later I discovered I was covered and after a lengthy battle they finally agreed to pay back my court costs and appoint a solicitor. Due to the hassles of living in South Africa and managing issues from the other side of the world, it was decided I would remain in the UK until the bailiffs application had been issued and I spent 4 months in the UK sleeping on sofas at friends and family.

The application to the court gives 2 weeks for the tenants to respond as to why they cannot move out, once this date is up notice is given which can be up to 6 months.

The court gave a date mid July and if the tenants didn’t move out by then I could apply for an application from the bailiffs to forcibly remove them from my property. Once the date of August 12th was given I returned to SA for a few weeks until I returned to clean and remarket the property.

I’d received annual inspections, the last one being in February 2013 and it did not state the level of dirt or repairs needed to the property. I also had to replace an oven at the property in the April as the door ‘fell off’ and if I didn’t I would be in breach of contract and legally the tenants could withhold rent…that’s a laugh.

In the meantime I went to the Worcester Hub and Festival Housing for advice, technically I was homeless and what they told me still makes my blood boil. They have advised the tenants to remain in the property until they receive the notice of eviction from the bailiffs before they can be rehoused, if they leave before that date they’ve made themselves homeless and won’t be rehoused.

When I asked what was on offer for me in regards to accommodation as my 14 year old was returning to the UK in August I was told I hadn’t secured housing for myself therefore I’d made myself technically homeless and wouldn’t be offered any accommodation. I had a 6-bed house I was trying to get back into, still paying a mortgage and not receiving any rent.

On completion of the exit inspection we sent local companies in for quotes which totaled over £5000 to clean and redecorate the house, plus the cost of the over grown garden, oven and window cleaning. Both companies that cleaned the oven and windows stated that these were the worst they’d ever seen and when I told the oven cleaning guy the oven was only 4 months old, he nearly passed out.

Having decided it was cheaper to clean the property ourselves I flew to the UK in September 2013 for 3 weeks and with help from friends @stephiemalverns @niffer62 and @brackett1 and my neighbours children and a steam mop from @bissellclean and hubby flying over for the last week we got the house ship shape and back on the rental market, with new agents, no guarantor and indepth reference checks after turning down people on housing benefit, people who had been backrupt and people who needed a guarantor.

In total we spent £2500 on repairs, paint, general DIY and preofessional cleaners, plus £700 on two return flights plus replacing items such as wardrobes, desk and a stolen chest freezer and the new tenants didn’t move in until December 2013, so with lost rent and a mortage to pay we were out of pocket over £8000.

So now to recovering the money from the guarantor and a solicitor who went on maternity leave.

Despite having sent all the receipts to the solicitor and them having the proof of missing payments from the first agent and the exit report. I’ve since had to send detailed photos to justify my need to spend so much on cleaning materials and to illustrate the damage to the walls, doors and ceilings.

I’m still waiting. The contract states the guarantor is liable for rent and damage and it also states that professional cleaning is to be carried out on leaving the property. Oven, carpets, windows, curtains.

I don’t know what the delay is, but when I add this snippet of information you’ll understand why this has gone on so long.

The solicitor was unable to locate the tenants or the guarantor, she hired a tracing company who came back with zero results.


I turned to google and face book and found them, addresses, emails and contact numbers within a day.

The current situation is we are waiting to hear back from the solicitor to say we will accept the £2,000 offered by the guarantor, without prejudice. He states we received the deposit back which covered the professional cleaning costs and the £2,000 covers the rent outstanding. He has failed to acknowledge the stolen items, the court costs, the damaged items, including a solid wooden door and furniture. Let alone the building work, complete redecorating of all the rooms, new toilet seats, etc, etc, etc.

We are accepting the offer as I fear we won't get any more. I think we are quite lucky that we got off so lightly.




























































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