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I've been feeling a bit fragile the past few weeks. When you need help you don't always know what you need and it's difficult to ask for it. Sometimes it's hard when you do know what help you need to actually say it out loud.
Please phone/message me without me asking you to or in response to my social media posts or just because it's the first anniversary of Stephanie's death.
Please invite me out to do something nice this week.
That's it, that's all.
Sounds very needy doesn't it? Ungrateful? People just don't know what to say, they've got their own lives, time moves on. Yes, indeed it certainly does. But for a handful of people, it didn't. They took the time and they stopped to put us first not just this week, but in the build up to the anniversary, the whole of the year. I am forever grateful and I will drop everything in the future for them if and when they need me.
OK, no one invited me out for a random coffee, but I did make my own plans and I went to the cinema with 2 friends last night to watch Downton Abbey. It gave me something to look forward to at the end of the week which I knew I'd need. I doubt they realised just how much.
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My heart goes out to you. You are so right: it can be hard to know what you need, and if you do know, to ask for it. I'm glad some people took the time to reach out for you.
ReplyDeleteIt hurts doesn't it when you are in pain and others think you have moved on. I'll tell you a secret, I'm not even allowed to mention missing my dead mother or brother because they caused damage to my family. It's so hard, for me they were still my mother and brother and I did forgive them both before they died. (Mum natural, brother suicide)
ReplyDeleteFrom my own experience, grieving has no written timeline so be gentle with yourself! Thinking of you and your family during this time!
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