Thursday 6 October 2022

Why I can't be Beyonce

A question was raised in English last week about whether we can be anything we want to be as according to Molly-Mae we all have the same 24 hours in a day as Beyonce has.

Seeing as I have the same hours in everyday as Beyonce, I thought I should put it to the test. Although I work 30 hours a week and spend roughly 4 hours a week commuting, Peter is at home and can do the housework, which is minimal as well as cooking most evenings as he usually does. I just don't want to be doing too much other stuff in the week, we're content watching the TV and just being in. On the weekends, we tend to do more though.

I woke at 3.30am on Thursday morning. I sat and drank tea and played on my phone for an hour as I do most mornings before getting ready for work, just not this early.

I come home from work and drink tea and sit on my phone for a while before we watch some quiz shows, have dinner and get everything ready for work in the mornings.

The dog will be walked, there will TV and a bath, then off to bed around 9pm.

We don't tend to do much else, although on weekends we do go out more for longer and further a field to spend time with family and friends.

Despite having all this free time and the luxury of not having to work if I choose not to, I still don't want to be Beyonce. 

For starters I can't sing, I've already travelled extensively and have lived abroad, our finances are in order for me to retire alongside Peter.

So in my mind we've already achieved Beyonce status. We've worked hard, for that's what she has done, regardless of what she does, we've raised a family, but for me at a much younger age.

We can all achieve what we want, we just have different goals and starting points, but it comes with hard work and determination and a few lucky breaks a long the way.

It starts with education and the reality is this start isn't the same for everyone. We also don't all have the same ability when it comes to learning and we don't all have the same access. I struggle with exams, if my life was judged by what I achieved aged 16-18 then I wouldn't have had half the life I've had.

To be a singer, dancer, actor there has to be a talent. I have no talent.

To be a Doctor there has to be a level of educational ability I don't have.

There has to be a lot fo hard work, there are sacrifices to be made maybe with having a family, where and how one lives.

If I had a talent to sing or act I'd still need to put in a lot of work and need a few lucky breaks along the way. I would have needed the finances to support this, a family that was happy to make sacrifices with their time for lifts, equipment and time with the ability to support all this plus possible other siblings, a roof over everyones head, a reliable car, spare money.

There is enough time in the day for everyone to achieve anything but they still need the skills, the determination, the finances to do and be anything they want to be.

I have the ability at 51 to write that book, to go back to university and study. I have the time for it also. I have the time to invest in social media to be a top earning influencer if I so desired, other than the fact I don't have a USP.

I can be anything I want to be. I just can't sing so I'll never be Beyonce. I don't have a USP and I'm not prepared to open myself up to potential ridicule of being trolled like Molly-Mae.

I have down times, like everyone else but in general I'm happy just being me and don't want or need any further validation. I also don't want the hard work, the extra effort everything and anything else would take me.

I might write that book one day though.

But for now I know I'm privileged, I've had a good start in and during life. I actually don't want to be anything else other than what I've already worked hard in and made sacrifices for along the way.

You can be anything you want to be, but you have to work for it and if you're anything is just managing to get up in the mornings or you're working several jobs to put a roof over your head than that is good enough.


  1. hahaha! I might have the same 24 hours as celebrities but I don't have an army of staff and an endless supply of money. I wouldn't want to be Beyonce anyway.
    You are right though, we have all worked for where we are now in life and everyone's goals are different. We are all good enough. x

  2. I also am well aware of my privilege to be able to choose to work part-time, to spend time with my sweet grandbabies. Choice is a true gift.