Week 13 2025 One Daily Positive and Project 365

I was off work until Friday. After a trip to A&E on Sunday, a drip and morphine, I woke on Monday morning with head pain. Straight to the GP and more meds. I rattle. I'm still not feeling right.

After searching for counselling and not being dragged into places I didn't want to be, I finally found my thing. A therapist at a Well Being Centre. I thought I’d booked a chiropractor. Nope. Had phoned wrong person, but this was better. Swedish massage. 75mins of pure bliss for £60. Back, neck, arms and head. And therapy thrown in. She was brilliant. I talked, I cried and I feel so much better physically and mentally. Booked in every Monday after work for 6 weeks.

Day 83
GP first thing, more tablets. Woke with throbbing headache after 4 hours sleep. All I managed today was to cook a roast and these fabulous Yorkshire puddings which I’m rather pleased with. The rest I froze. Rest of the day spent in bed or dozing on the sofa.

Day 84

Today I found my thing. I visited a well being clinic. I found the number looking for holistic support for my migraine. I had the most amazing 60+minute massage and therapy session. I could feel all the physical and emotional tension leaving my body. I talked, I cried. Peter arrived home mid afternoon. He chilled out on the sofa, I tucked into one of my presents and spent the rest of the afternoon and evening resting in bed.

Day 85 

Literally got out of bed to eat today. I know what’s going on, I can process it, I can see the road ahead, only I can ‘snap out of it’ but it’s not that easy’ there’s nothing to snap out of, I’m having to adjust and learning to live with grief, it’s complicated, you don’t just ‘get on with it’ you don’t just adapt to it. Video call with this cutie. There will be real life cuddles next week.

Day 86

We popped out to visit Peter’s mum and drop off her Mother’s Day gift and see our niece and great nephew for his 4th birthday and drop his present off also. Called in at Asda on the way home and I weeded the raised beds. Still got a perpetual headache, but if it’s not going to shift, I might as well just get on with life.

Day 87

The 2nd Mother’s Day gift to arrive, plus flowers from another son and thoughtful cards. It’s tricky trying to acknowledge Mother’s Day as a daughter and a DIL whilst accepting that as a mum Stephanie is no longer with us. I went back to work today. Had a meeting with HR to discuss how everything is getting on top of me and its effect on my health. Work was quiet, apart from a fire drill. Maths and English tutoring 1:1 in the afternoon. Coffee with Peter after work and popped into the pub for half an hour with a friend and home for dinner and TV. 

Day 88

The day started very early as I was awake at 4am. At 9am I was planting some seeds. Peter and I then went for coffee. He dropped me at the train station and I headed up to Birmingham to watch #bcfc. Good result. Train home, read my book, bath, watched TV and early bed planned.

Day 89

We spent the day in the garden, I planted the fruit trees moving soil from the front garden to fill the pots, after I'd decided where I wanted all the pots to go. We popped out for coffee and bought a chicken which I cooked for dinner in the evening and we celebrated the cats 16th birthday. I had an early bath and had a video call with grandson and a phone call with a friend.

Things to make you smile:

We made our annual trip to McDonalds to buy a happy meal for the cats birthday, there was a present and a card.

I sent took this photo just outside St Andrews on my way to the match and sent it to the family group chat 'remember this fence?' Back in 2009, Peter had a new car with parking sensors, he told the kids that when then solid beep was heard there was still a couple of feet before he hit anything. He got a far as the word 'couple' before hitting the fence and they've never let him live it down. The two boys who were in the car that day didn't know I was going to the game on Saturday, but both recognised the fence and knew where I was.

Things that made me happy:

Gifts and cards from the children and grandchildren, finally getting out in the garden, magnolia, baking, medication to take the migraine away, Peter being home.

On the blog this week: 

Post Comment Love - You're welcome to link up with any post you've written this week on any subject.

Plans for Spring Gardening - Since writing the post, almost half the plans are complete.

Word of the Week - Triggers - I've no idea what is going to trigger me, when or where.

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Week 13 One Daily Positive and Project 365 - Bad haircut week

Peter has been nagging to remove the fleece cover off the Bay Tree. I've been telling him for weeks that we are due another cold snap and had snow in April last year. Peter hasn't had seasons for 11 years now and certainly isn't used to this ever changing weather.

I haven't been eating properly, the kitchen still isn't finished and despite paying for everything in December and the work starting in January, we still don't have a fridge and a door on the washing machine. The current fridge is in the dining room and it really annoys me I have to keep going to get things to be able to cook with.

I had a disaster with a haircut, it's been butchered. I've had many cuts over the years I've not been happy with, but never have I have I had my hair cut so badly, it's not the style, although I did have a consultation prior to booking and stated I didn't want this style at all, just an undercut to remove the bulk and showed her a picture of how I was intending of growing my hair to have it styled in the future. 

I've not been back as I don't want her to attempt to tidy it up and a refund won't replace the hair she hacked off or compensate for having short hair for another 2 years that I've been growing it for. I just don't want the hassle and a row. Once it's fixed I will send her some photos and complain to her directly but I'm doubtful she'll even bother to reply and I'm not sure how saying 'sorry' can compensate either.

85 Saturday Off into Worcester early to buy a couple of birthday presents and so the food shopping. Afternoon spent in the garden and we had a BBQ with our neighbours.

We had a Dubai day, dressed up, had breakfast out, did some shopping and visited the Knife Angel. 

86 Sunday Urgh, forgot the clocks were going forward and hour. Off to Gloucester to collect child 1 for coffee and cake, then after dropping her back at home we went to Keynsham to visit MIL, SIL, Niece and Great Nephew for his 1st birthday at Avon Valley. Child 2, his wife and our grandchild also came.

87 Monday A long day in work, the weather was nice so I walked into town to meet Peter with Bob and we had a coffee. I went to bed with a migraine.

Video calls with grandson.

88 Tuesday Woke with a migraine, but managed to kill it with meds by lunch time, walked half way home and met Peter on route, evening spent in front of TV and I did the ironing.

Seeds seems to be doing well despite me forgetting to water and close them up over night.

89 Wednesday The car was in for its MOT so Peter walked half way to meet me with the dog. After dinner I spent the evening in my craft room tidying up ready to empty out the other attic room to sort things for keeping, selling and donating.

10 years since Pushkins adopted us, it is estimated she is 13 years old.

90 Thursday Off to hairdressers after work. What an absolute disaster, thankfully its only hair and it will grow, but it took me 2 years to grow it long enough to have the style I wanted then she butchered it. I'm getting it sorted on Saturday at a different salon. We did a food shop on the way home.

91 Friday Still really upset about my hair, no one said anything at work, but I had scrunched it so it looked less choppy and wore a large jumper that covered the back of my neck. Stopped off to get nails done on the way home, Peter walked the dog to meet me. We didn't do much in the evening, just watched TV.

One of my students made this for me, it's a sign of acceptance.

On the blog this week:

Life is ordinary, but that's ok

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